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Have you sometimes wondered about how well-prepared you are for the future?

Many people have told us that their familiarity with estate planning and probate is limited; many more say their wills are not up to date and few are aware of the extent to which an elder law firm can simplify these processes.

Our website offers simple answers to these and similar questions.
 
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Caring for Your Aging Parent: Part 2
 

Welcome to the second article in our series, "Caring for your aging parent."  This series discusses issues relating to caring for an aging parent and will hopefully assist you with some of the difficult decisions that are involved with doing so.

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My 70 year parent seems forgetful.   Should I be worried about Alzheimer's/dementia?

Maybe.  First, although the words dementia and Alzheimer's are often used interchangeably, they are two different things.   Alzheimer's is a specific disease that causes dementia. Dementia impairs thinking and memory causing interference with a person's ability to do things which he or she previously was able to do.   Alzheimer's is the most common type of dementia as it accounts for 80% of the dementia cases. 

However, there are different causes and types of dementia.  Stroke or vascular dementia is also a type of dementia that can occur when blood vessels become blocked.  Dementia can also be caused by a metabolic or hormonal disturbance.

Getting back to the original question, should you be worried? 

Sometime the early signs can be simply attributed to normal aging, stress and/or depression.  However, being aware of the signs can contribute significantly to help with early diagnosis and treatment.   In the case of both Alzheimer's and dementia, education is power.  

The following are some warning signs:

  1. Forgetfulness and memory loss.  Anyone can forget the details of a conversation, but early onset Alzheimer's causes a person to forget entire conversations he/she only had moments ago.  They have trouble remembering important dates and event and ask for the same information over and over again.  Although occasionally forgetting names or appointments is normal, for a person with early stages, this forgetfulness will occur with increasing frequency.
     
  2. Difficulty with familiar tasks.
     
  3. Putting things in the inappropriate places; i.e., placing keys in the refrigerator.
     
  4. Becoming disoriented and unaware of surroundings in familiar places.
     
  5. Poor judgment and the inability to make sound decisions.
     
  6. Personality changes. This can be sometime hard to assess, but it should be noted if the person's is acting strangely, experiencing mood swings and/or withdrawing from family and friends.
   
     
     
If your loved one is experiencing any of the above symptoms, it is important for you to consult a physician so that proper diagnosis can be made.  It is also important to mention that if a diagnosis of Alzheimer's/dementia is made, getting that loved one's estate planning documents prepared by an elder law attorney sooner rather than later is essential.*     

* Thanks to the Dementia Guide and the Alzheimer's Association for some of the material presented in this Article.

  

 
What Everyone Should Know About Estate Planning
 

Some differences between a will and trust:   A will does not avoid probate.  A trust can avoid probate, but only if the trust is properly funded.   A will only comes into effect when you pass away.  A trust can hold assets while you are alive.  A trust can be useful if you have property out of estate, as real estate is governed by the probate rules where it is located.  As such if you own 3 pieces of property, each in a different state, if they are not owned by a trust, you are looking at three different probate procedures. 

The power to make decisions for loved ones is not automatic, you must be legally appointed.   Your spouse or other family member can't make legal decision for you unless you legally appoint them in a document.   For example, without a financial power of attorney, your spouse can't access your IRA if needed and without a health care power of attorney, you can't make health care decisions for your child who just turned 18.  A durable power of attorney for financial matters and a durable power of attorney for health care decisions appoint a person to act on your behalf when you are unable to do so.   Without these documents, decisions cannot be legally made and a guardianship may be necessary.  To avoid unnecessary stress and hardship down the road, our office strongly recommends that everyone 18 years and old have both a Durable Power of Attorney for Health and a Durable Power of Attorney for Financial Matters.  

Naming a guardian for your children is important.    This is done through a person's will and if a person does not have a will, a court decides who will be appointed as guardian of a person's children.   Parents put off writing a will because they cannot agree on a potential guardian.   Although this decision is a difficult one to make, after making it, most parents feel a sense of relief that a court isn't choosing who will be the guardian for their children.

Trusts are not all the same and they are not just for the wealthy.   Some trusts are created to avoid probate and to provide a distribution to a person's children upon death.  Others are created to avoid estate tax and some to protect assets from creditors.   We frequently prepare trust for clients who have a loved one who is disabled.  These trusts are called special needs trusts and protect the disabled individual from losing public benefits such as SSI and/or Medicaid.             

Portability of the Estate Tax Exemption:    Portability of the estate tax exemption means that if the first spouse dies and doesn't use all of his or her federal exemption for estate taxes that the surviving spouse can add the unused estate tax exemption of the deceased spouse to their own exemption, allowing spouses together to transfer up to $10 million tax free.  Please note that portability is not automatic and to get it, the executor of the first spouse who died must file an estate tax return, even if no estate taxes are due.   If you have any questions regarding portability and how it could apply to your Estate, please contact our office. 

Communication is key.  Communicating with all family members about your estate planning can significantly reduce the likelihood of potential conflicts or disputes after you are gone.

If you have questions regarding any aspect of what everyone should know about estate planning, please feel free to contact our office.


 
Live Like You're Going to Die...

Last, but not least, in our business we often deal with families who are experiencing significant stress typically originating from disability or death.   This being the case, in the course of reading online the Huffington Post, there are was an article by Mike Robbins that captivated my attention entitled, "Live Like You're Going to Die (Because You Are)."   

In the spirit of the holiday season, we want to share some of the thoughts presented in the article.  The author's inspiration for contemplating death was Steve Jobs and in the article, he provides us with some things that we can think about and focus on and do on a regular basis that will allow us to live like we're going to die, in a positive way:

  • Don't sweat the small stuff
  • Let go of grudges
  • Focus on what really matters
  • Go for it...
  • Seize the day! **

With those positive thoughts for the upcoming New Year, we hope that you and your family have a wonderful holiday and a Happy New Year.

**Thanks to http://www.huffingtonpost.com/, Live Like You're Going to Die (Because You Are) by Mike Robbins, dated March 18, 2011.


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